Romantically Frustrated?

By insecurities, I mean that guys like to see themselves as these sexual gods. A girl having more experience than you can therefore appear quite intimidating if you are in this mindset. I don't agree it shows that they have less self-respect/dignity. That would imply that you understand the circumstances of all of her encounters, for lack of a better word. Unless you'd argue that having sex with someone always reduces your self-respect and dignity, she could simply have met a lot of great guys. Dating and sex are very much luck-based, depending highly on who you happen to meet. "Less likely to feel special" is also a question of personal feelings of security, which stems from insecurity (or potential lack thereof). It also works both ways; if you are a girl's first or second or third etc partner, can you feel special? Is she with you because you're amazing, or because she doesn't know any better? How special you feel should be based on how she treats you and how she acts around you, not based on some arbitrary number. I'm not sure if you can qualify it as being universal. I could be an extreme minority, or I could not. We'll have to get others to contribute to find out!

You just made my point for me, and I think you read my post incorrectly. In any case, you never said it was ok for an older guy to sleep with a younger girl yet you say it is ok for a younger guy to sleep with an older girl because well they wanted it right? Double standards are fun.

I wouldn't really say it's a case of intimidation and especially not due to "more experience" as can having sex with people when you're so drunk you can't/barely remember it really be classed as "experience"? Especially if you're the girl where you often just lie back and take it. Sure while I don't know the intimate details she has told me how she never really wanted to have sex with a lot of them and just was drunk/went with it which I believe supports my view. Sorry, I could see how that was going to look the way you saw it when I wrote it, I don't mean it to sound like you should feel special based solely on the number of men a girl has slept with but if you think about it honestly, a girl that gives you her virginity or a girl that has only deemed a few people worthy of sleeping with is going to make you feel far less like just another guy than someone who has slept with more/many men, and I don't think that has anything to do with insecurity.

It's sad what it turned into. It was a good thread.

It was dead for 118 days before this...