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By Ramyrez 2017-02-10 07:33:56
Sure sometimes there is a calm day, then I make some time for myself (aka household) but he just always works even on his day off, which makes me feel bad cause I'm not, very annoying ><)
Working even when you don't have to is by many considered to be a sign of studiousness and dedication to being the best you can be. Especially in America.
That said, it can also be a sign of serious depression issues.
If he's always been like that, then it may merely be his personality to constantly be doing something. If that's a deviation from the norm or prior behavior, I would say it could be a red flag.
Not a hard and fast rule, but still something to keep in mind.
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By Anna Ruthven 2017-02-10 07:35:19
To some of the people here, I assume the big crayons are like a king size candy bar.
By Ramyrez 2017-02-10 07:58:22
To some of the people here, I assume the big crayons are like a king size candy bar.
...they're dumb enough to eat them in one sitting?
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By Asura.Lolserj 2017-02-10 08:01:12
To some of the people here, I assume the big crayons are like a king size candy bar.
...they're dumb enough to eat them in one sitting? YouTube Video Placeholder
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By Asura.Vienner 2017-02-10 08:23:29
Wait, so both of you work out of the house for the same company or something? We're both selfemployed but our business is on his name, he gets credit for pretty much anything we do though. We work together everyday for long hours, in the end I think we're doing pretty good, We get along great...just not ...you know lol
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By Asura.Lolserj 2017-02-10 08:31:14
Wait, so both of you work out of the house for the same company or something? We're both selfemployed but our business is on his name, he gets credit for pretty much anything we do though. We work together everyday for long hours, in the end I think we're doing pretty good, We get along great...just not ...you know lol
I mean you could always try to make the working from home together thing more "fun"
I don't know exactly what you guys do though, so I don't know if you need to be ready at any time for someone to barge through your front door
Is there any way you guys could trim the long hours back? :X I can be a bit of a lazy bum, so I don't know how people do the like 25 hour work days thing
By Ramyrez 2017-02-10 08:33:49
Is there any way you guys could trim the long hours back?
Given it appears to be an owner-operator situation, likely not. Owning your own business can be very rewarding, but also very demanding.
Truth be told, her situation isn't uncommon in these scenarios. When you own your own business, your work tends to be your life and it tends to control all other aspects of things.
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By Asura.Vienner 2017-02-10 08:50:19
Is there any way you guys could trim the long hours back?
Given it appears to be an owner-operator situation, likely not. Owning your own business can be very rewarding, but also very demanding.
Truth be told, her situation isn't uncommon in these scenarios. When you own your own business, your work tends to be your life and it tends to control all other aspects of things. Euhm yeah...I dont have a life (hence I like my online time, thats my time) We never do anything, my phone rings constantly on my day off and I have two deadlines a day.
I love my job but......yes very demanding.
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By Shiva.Spathaian 2017-02-10 09:12:00
I don't know how people do the like 25 hour work days thing That said, it can also be a sign of serious depression issues. This is usually where my extreme working times come from. Normally I'm rather lazy.
Edit: This also explains why it took me working 12+hr days and 60+ hour weeks before I finally broke down and went to a hospital.
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By Asura.Lolserj 2017-02-10 09:26:03
I don't know how people do the like 25 hour work days thing That said, it can also be a sign of serious depression issues. This is usually where my extreme working times come from. Normally I'm rather lazy.
I mean whenever I've had extreme working times it's been due to other unknown reasons, but when I'm depressed I usually just want to do nothing because nothing sounds like something I want to be doing
Whenever I end up working crazy hours (hasn't happened in a looooong time) it's usually due to some problem being difficult to solve, and I've sort of learned to curb that because I end up skipping meals and not knowing what time it is by the time I'm done
From what I've gathered from the above posts it seems like those long hours might be necessary and they sound pretty dedicated to be able to do it. Though I've never owned my own business, so I can't really talk from personal experience
I know a couple small business owners and have worked for a startup where I was the only employee besides the owner. Most small business owners I know are incredible dedicated to their business, and will sacrifice a lot to make sure things run smoothly.
Though the situations various small business owners/self employed people are in can vary wildly. My dad works for a small business and at any point the owner can probably just *** off to some South American country and retire, but he loves the business and loves making money so he probably wouldn't do that. I mean he does a lot of the work himself too, he's not just sitting behind a desk barking orders or something. The guy climbs ladders and grinds floors like any person that works for him
On the other hand the startup I worked for was in a situation where the owner had no salary, and they had like 1 client. He needs to make sure his product gets completed and his client gets what he wants or he is ***. I remember him working like 80 hours a week.
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By Asura.Lolserj 2017-02-10 09:30:02
Is there any way you guys could trim the long hours back?
Given it appears to be an owner-operator situation, likely not. Owning your own business can be very rewarding, but also very demanding.
Truth be told, her situation isn't uncommon in these scenarios. When you own your own business, your work tends to be your life and it tends to control all other aspects of things. Euhm yeah...I dont have a life (hence I like my online time, thats my time) We never do anything, my phone rings constantly on my day off and I have two deadlines a day.
I love my job but......yes very demanding.
If you don't mind, what is it that you guys do?
By Ramyrez 2017-02-10 09:31:53
Presuming to answer for others: They have a restaurant, if I understand correctly.
By Ramyrez 2017-02-10 09:36:24
I mean whenever I've had extreme working times it's been due to other unknown reasons, but when I'm depressed I usually just want to do nothing because nothing sounds like something I want to be doing
Depression as a chronic condition is a ***.
Some people don't feel like doing anything. Some people don't feel like doing anything but force themselves to do everything. Some people lose their appetite entirely. Some stuff their face will all kinds of unhealthy stuff because it supplies the brief serotonin hit that helps them along. Some people become super-apologetic for every action. Some people become violently upset with everyone else's every action.
It's *** and the human brain is a douchebag.
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By Shiva.Spathaian 2017-02-10 09:37:29
I mean whenever I've had extreme working times it's been due to other unknown reasons, but when I'm depressed I usually just want to do nothing because nothing sounds like something I want to be doing For me at least it, if I'm at work and doing something I'm not thinking about the depression, or I'm doing the only thing I believe I can possibly useful for. I basically will push myself to breaking point because I don't believe there's any point for me not to during that time, if I hurt myself or die or whatever I just prove I'm as useless as my depression is making me feel and if I do the job I guess I just assume I'm at least pretending I'm worth something.
Basically during depression I either throw myself completely and utterly at work as a numbing mechanism or I become a sack of potatoes.
My manic episodes can also lead to excessive working... but that's another story that's just as unhealthy.
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By Asura.Lolserj 2017-02-10 09:38:16
I mean whenever I've had extreme working times it's been due to other unknown reasons, but when I'm depressed I usually just want to do nothing because nothing sounds like something I want to be doing
Depression as a chronic condition is a ***.
Some people don't feel like doing anything. Some people don't feel like doing anything but force themselves to do everything. Some people lose their appetite entirely. Some stuff their face will all kinds of unhealthy stuff because it supplies the brief serotonin hit that helps them along. Some people become super-apologetic for every action. Some people become violently upset with everyone else's every action.
It's *** and the human brain is a douchebag.
Now you've gone and made me depressed :(
By Ramyrez 2017-02-10 09:39:00
My manic episodes can also lead to excessive working... but that's another story that's just as unhealthy
Oooh. Bipolar disorder is even more fun. Especially when you don't want to take meds because your manic phases are actually productive and you enjoy life during them.
Not a personal experience, but one of people I know well. It's really *** hard on some folks and can really take its toll.
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By Shiva.Spathaian 2017-02-10 09:39:21
Some people become violently upset with everyone else's every action. This, as much as I hate to blame depression for it. Every time I get super depressed my temper comes out terribly. Which then compounds the depression because I know I'm being a *** and overreacting and I hate when I don't manage my frustration well.
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By Ramyrez 2017-02-10 09:40:01
Now you've gone and made me depressed :( 
Or, inversely, it can be how that works sometimes!
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By Misa Pres 2017-02-10 09:41:34
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By Shiva.Spathaian 2017-02-10 09:41:37
My manic episodes can also lead to excessive working... but that's another story that's just as unhealthy
Oooh. Bipolar disorder is even more fun. Especially when you don't want to take meds because your manic phases are actually productive and you enjoy life during them.
Not a personal experience, but one of people I know well. It's really *** hard on some folks and can really take its toll. Personal experience for me as well.
I tried medication. I've debated trying it again but as of right now the manic episodes are more worth their productive potential and I'm willing to ignore the negative side.
That Depressive side... I'd love for it to just go away.
But hey, I made it 23 years without medication or self-harming so I've got it a lot easier than others in my shoes.
By Ramyrez 2017-02-10 09:41:46
Some people become violently upset with everyone else's every action. This, as much as I hate to blame depression for it. Every time I get super depressed my temper comes out terribly. Which then compounds the depression because I know I'm being a *** and overreacting and I hate when I don't manage my frustration well.
There's always the Ni solution to everything.
Take three scotches and don't call anyone in the morning, just go to work and harangue people on teh interwebz.
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By Asura.Lolserj 2017-02-10 09:42:23
I mean whenever I've had extreme working times it's been due to other unknown reasons, but when I'm depressed I usually just want to do nothing because nothing sounds like something I want to be doing For me at least it, if I'm at work and doing something I'm not thinking about the depression, or I'm doing the only thing I believe I can possibly useful for. I basically will push myself to breaking point because I don't believe there's any point for me not to during that time, if I hurt myself or die or whatever I just prove I'm as useless as my depression is making me feel and if I do the job I guess I just assume I'm at least pretending I'm worth something.
Basically during depression I either throw myself completely and utterly at work as a numbing mechanism or I become a sack of potatoes.
My manic episodes can also lead to excessive working... but that's another story that's just as unhealthy.
I mean in the past I've had episodes where I just didn't want to get out of bed, and would call in sick as a result or skip classes when I was going to college
Usually now my depression will manifest itself by me endlessly browsing my Steam games or going through Netflix going, "Wow, there is nothing here I want to play or watch", which I suppose is healthier than calling in sick or skipping classes (if I had any)
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By Ramyrez 2017-02-10 09:43:03
*waits for Nik to come in and administer his own brand of therapy*
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By Asura.Vienner 2017-02-10 09:43:43
Presuming to answer for others: They have a restaurant, if I understand correctly. yes a restaurant.
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By Ramyrez 2017-02-10 09:44:37
Presuming to answer for others: They have a restaurant, if I understand correctly. yes a restaurant.
*stomachrumbles*
Mmm. Food. Tasty Belgian food.
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By Shiva.Spathaian 2017-02-10 09:45:21
I don't know if it's just because my depression has never gotten bad enough or if it's my upbringing but I can't bring myself to ever EVER call into work. Like, even getting my to take my vacation days is like pulling teeth.
It does not matter how I feel or what I think, I will go unless someone/something physically holds me back. It goes back to that whole "It's the one thing I'm good for" mentality. If I'm not at work or school or whatever my obligation in life is, I feel like I have hit the lowest of lows and there's not even any point to me being here.
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By Asura.Lolserj 2017-02-10 09:45:29
Presuming to answer for others: They have a restaurant, if I understand correctly. yes a restaurant.
Oh okay, now I understand
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By Misa Pres 2017-02-10 09:47:02
listen to happy music
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By Ramyrez 2017-02-10 09:48:11
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By Asura.Lolserj 2017-02-10 09:48:53
I don't know if it's just because my depression has never gotten bad enough or if it's my upbringing but I can't bring myself to ever EVER call into work. Like, even getting my to take my vacation days is like pulling teeth.
It does not matter how I feel or what I think, I will go unless someone/something physically holds me back. It goes back to that whole "It's the one thing I'm good for" mentality. If I'm not at work or school or whatever my obligation in life is, I feel like I have hit the lowest of lows and there's not even any point to me being here.
Trust me, you'll know if your depression gets bad enough
But at that point it's just a battle between your want to be productive that day and your want to just lay in bed doing nothing
It's not like (well I don't think so) if you're vomiting or have explosive diarrhea, usually if you can power through your depression you can usually get up and at least do stuff while being depressed
but sometimes it can be tough to find the willpower to do things when you're really depressed
Edit: As of 2010-10-05 14:48:06 CST, Ni reached 10,000 pages.
Since we all can't be on the same linkshell in game, this can be our cross server linkshell thread.
Like most linkshells, it can be pretty dead at times. Other times it's full of intense conversations about either rl, gear, goals, pokemon or anything else you want to contribute.
We can cover any sort of topic at all, within reason of the forum rules. No real main topic, just a bunch of FFXIAH friends/people coming on and discussing random things.
http://www.nationstates.net/nation=royal_kingdom_of_ni
Continuation from: http://www.ffxiah.com/forum/topic/2873/ffxiah-linkshell/732/#150486
Update: Sorry Eternaltriumph, too much has changed D: (Page 698)
Eternaltriumph said: Yeah Chuu. Bringing you up to speed, Ludoggy is the LS pedophile. I'm the fountain of random and useless knowledge that makes you go "Hrm" with the occasional side of "holy shit he said what?"
Kungfu is the LS nutjob, spouting super random things that are usually sexist, until Savvy or Alyria comes into the room. Then he's a classic case of sexual harrassment. Rumaha is also true to the second part; we're wondering about his sexuality though.
Daj is Ludoggy's gay lover. Not much else is known about this Asuran. Tairo is kinda new, but since is a female and Alyria's lesbian lover, she fit right in real quick.
Celene(F) and Rowland(M) are more of the shyer members, but often say things that are witty, have a good pun and sometimes cause three page discussions. Celene hates when people hit on her. It doesn't stop them from trying.
Krizz is just social and likes to kill time here during work Tbest is about the same, except tends to be a douche to guys and affectionate toward girls.
Alyria is the most social female, gets groped a lot without provoking it by others, and Tairo ends up stabbing people for it. Cai is just a barrel of lols, I might be gay for him. If I wasn't straight.
Not sure about Citag, s/he's new. Kiriyu is just an in-out kinda person. Says one thing every three days that every guy makes a big fuss over. Ludoggy gets really defensive since she's asian and underage (might be 18 now).
Artem is the wayward soul that makes you ponder the meaning of life by constantly reminding us life can suck. But he deals, and so do we. About the same for Savannah, except people are more "AWH!" to her because of a vagina involved.
Dasva is the ex military man (as is Krizz but this doesn't apply to him) who hates the world and plots a way to destroy most of it.
Number2 is kinda like a mix between Cai and I; never bashes, likes to laugh and has odd avatars. His current suits a lot of the convos this LS gets into. Barti is most well known for his moustache. He gives mousatche rides for a fee. I'm missing a few people but whatever. CARRY ON!
Luelle Smells.
Roster of FFXIAH Ni (as of April 1st, 2010 Pocoyo avatar craze)
One Year Anniversary!!!Asura.Ludoggy said: Happy b-day ls.
Heres my lame gift to AHLS, since Row is lame and took away the OP, I made my own!
Haseyo/Bignose: He's got a bigass nose, Leader of the RL avi revloution or some junk no one gives a crap about...crazy about his asian pop/rock bands and is a closet pedo. AKA LAME
Dameshi: wont level his sam sub and is a lolblu, LAME
Citag: Doesnt put out, Really lame
Dasva: Uses Chu as a cover up for his desire for me greased up and naked on his bed, Lame.
Rydiya/Bra+Panties: Secret lesbien, doesnt wear bra+panties, like to knit and other old people stuff (bingo)
Pikachu/Chu: Hi Chu, I love chu
Kryee/Socks: Noms on socks, wears the sam red pair everyday and frequently sniffs her arm pits.
Cheyne: Domo origoto, Mr Roboto...I think he's gay.
Urial: SOCCER IS LAME AND YOU'RE LAME.
Thundars: LOLCANADIAN
Spence: LOLFRENCHCANADIAN
Enterius/ghost: He's a ghost...he'll say something witty to me later.
Ixe: Ducky face and cant seem to get a straw in her mouth (can get other things in there though)
Mairah: She cool...lame
Bart: Full times OPO-OPO, free mustache rides otherwise LAME
Sav/Mango: Field trips, yay!
Aly/thatgreenmodthatwillbanmeifIsayanythingbad: *tapes*
Woody: You're not Italian...no tea for you.
Sectum: My apprentice...loves asian girls, loves to cook...he's awesome. put me in a story where I wasnt a pedo and that'd cool
Rum:STOP RAIDING MY BASEMENT AND TAKING AWAY MY GIRLS GAWD. Long Islander...lame
Valencea:Wont tell me the color of her undies, you lost the bet...no we cant get married...NO MEANS NO
Kojo:Open pedo...he likes scat, ewww
Tohsou: I think he's a pedo with a girlfriend as cover up, lame.
Kiriyu/strawberry: Lurk Less post moar! I see you what you are doing!
Krizz: Mohawk guy #1
Triet: Mohawk guy #1...wait
Bloodbathboy: The Hulk
Kungfuhustle: AH%DUE%$JNSRGHSRHHEYHEHSA Y%HEDHGSR EAT AHUYY DONKEY NUTS
Celene: Quit...Canadian...who the hell quits?
Tbest: MIA
Eternaltriumph: Where the hell has he been? Is he gone cause he got pussywhipped or something? Whatever...
#2: GOD...I miss him /cry
Luelle/otherlu: The Other Lu.
Zekky: Quit, kicking ass, raped me :\
Krystale/Girlwithpiercing: Magnets stick to her, Toke Canadian, hawt...she's 15 right?
Marzbarz: NINJA
Rowland: All your Pocoyo are belong to...him
Weewoo/Tool: He liked Asura and wont admit it.
Miemo: Has a mithra avi c.c
Kalyna: is a girl right? right? oh...lame
Gimmeurselables: TOO MUCH BOUNCE...TOO BIG, EWWWW
Sagittario: Lame elf whu runs around in a diaper subligar
Ludoggy: Faggot
Edit: The Family Ni Tree
Luelle's (And Citag's too!) birthday present
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