I doubt it's as shallow as half of this thread. I highly doubt it's as shallow as using this thread to fill your girl-on-the-internet-syndrome requirements with dozens of guys you don't know at all. It was also said in a light-hearted manner as a quasi-joke (I understand context doesn't translate to text).
That being said, I take my word and being honest more serious than a random sexual encounter to "scratch a temporary itch". Relationships are built on trust, if you don't have trust for each other then I would say you have a mighty "shallow" relationship. That's just my opinion obviously, but then again this thread was a thread asking what people value in finding someone.
But the act of being deceitful, intentionally or not, is what turns it into a deplorable act. Mostly because, if you resort to that, it means you were too weak to even try to fix it.
If I was dating someone who I knew had succumbed to infidelity, I can say there wouldn't be an immediate, mutual respect. It may build over time, but knowing something like that would color my initial disposition a certain way, and I just can't help that.
This.
In my opinion it just means that the person in question did not have the balls to communicate with their partner to say that they were unhappy. It's always easier to lie than confront someone with a harsh truth.
I know that personally, I would always prefer to be told the truth. Sure it would hurt, but if the reason was legitimate and it was brought up in a respectful manner, I would never get angry.
At least for me, either way you twist it, cheating shows weakness of character. Try to communicate and fix it first. Or break it. But don't go behind my back letting me believe it's all fine and good, that's just plain disrespectful.
but usually if you choose a girl that was prone to do that, the likelihood you chose them to be in a relationship originally and not just for sex could technically be diminished.
I've had girls do exactly that because I was a bit more shallow back in the day...but the weird thing is I've had a girl harass ME after she cheated for a few weeks after I told her she was a liar and I didn't want to have anything to do with it.
It wasn't like good harassment it was more like her trying to ***-talk me the whole time...it was weird.
Dated the girl for like 2 weeks and got 2 months of BS.
Turns out the dude she got with beat her and ***after that which makes me kindof giggle in a "just desserts" kind of way even-though I know it's kinda bad, though I think part of the reason was because I told her she was going to die alone if she keeps on treating people like ***. lol
There's nothing bad about having an open discussion about sex. It just means being comfortable with it, which is a good thing. If someone gets a *** out of it, or takes some flirt-joke too seriously than it's their problem.
Ashman is very nice. I'll even admit to crossing the line a couple of times on here, and in retrospect, I do feel somewhat bad.
Anything with a hole and is breathing. Actually, breathing isn't a necessity, just warm to the touch. Ok, cold works too....just give me a hole and away I go.
There's nothing bad about having an open discussion about sex. It just means being comfortable with it, which is a good thing. If someone gets a *** out of it, or takes some flirt-joke too seriously than it's their problem.
:3 I need more people to talk to about it, but I would like to not be forced into conversations about prostate stimulation. >__>
There's nothing bad about having an open discussion about sex. It just means being comfortable with it, which is a good thing. If someone gets a *** out of it, or takes some flirt-joke too seriously than it's their problem.
An open discussion about relationships is like founded on sex lol, can't have a decent relationship IMO without a little bump and grind.
There's nothing bad about having an open discussion about sex. It just means being comfortable with it, which is a good thing. If someone gets a *** out of it, or takes some flirt-joke too seriously than it's their problem.
An open discussion about relationships is like founded on sex lol, can't have a decent relationship IMO without a little bump and grind.
I'll be seeing her tonight. You'll have to tell me what to say through my phone!
Don't be that guy that uses his phone all the time throughout the date.
It's not a date, there are a bunch of us going. I wouldn't touch my phone on a date unless it was to call a cab or something.
good man, but it does sound fun. transformers?
Boston Pizza. It's a weekly thing with some friends and I
I think...I'm going to start calling you Spenny.
Bismarck.Josiahfk said:
Odin.Zicdeh said:
If I was dating someone who I knew had succumbed to infidelity, I can say there wouldn't be an immediate, mutual respect. It may build over time, but knowing something like that would color my initial disposition a certain way, and I just can't help that.
It sounds like you've never cheated on anyone and someday I hope you never fall in love with 2 women simultaneously. because it can and most likely will shatter those walls you've built morally
You do have some valid points Zicdeh I just think cheating is often much more complicated than people who've been cheated on claim (or outside parties)
I think it's much more simple as well.
When you refer to hypothetical situations it can go either way when you are making a generalization like that :P
but usually if you choose a girl that was prone to do that, the likelihood you chose them to be in a relationship originally and not just for sex could technically be diminished.
I don't really agree with that (I'm a girl btw so obviously I substitute "girl" with "guy" XD). The problem is that often, you don't know whether that person is prone to cheat or not.
They could appear very stable and loyal. There's a lot of really good liars out there, too. Usually you don't know til it happens to you. Personally, even if I did know that they cheated before, I would be extremely reluctant to even think of dating them.
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I've had girls do exactly that because I was a bit more shallow back in the day...but the weird thing is I've had a girl harass ME after she cheated for a few weeks after I told her she was a liar and I didn't want to have anything to do with it.
It wasn't like good harassment it was more like her trying to ***-talk me the whole time...it was weird.
Maybe it was some "getting back at you" mentality she had. I dunno, lol. Good thing you got rid of her by the sounds of it :P
If I was dating someone who I knew had succumbed to infidelity, I can say there wouldn't be an immediate, mutual respect. It may build over time, but knowing something like that would color my initial disposition a certain way, and I just can't help that.
It sounds like you've never cheated on anyone and someday I hope you never fall in love with 2 women simultaneously. because it can and most likely will shatter those walls you've built morally
You do have some valid points Zicdeh I just think cheating is often much more complicated than people who've been cheated on claim (or outside parties)
I think it's much more simple as well.
When you refer to hypothetical situations it can go either way when you are making a generalization like that :P
if someone asked you about cheating in general, would you say in most cases it's a simple situation or a complicated one?
Because I very rarely stumble upon the simple cases that seems to be considered the kind referred to here
They are complicated and muddle by human emotion, when in fact in reality they are simple and plain as day.
That's the duality of it.
Relationships aren't really all that complicated at all, it just depends how you look at it and where you are in the relationship.
Looking in from the outside makes it a lot easier, but with some people it's complicated because it contains complicated people, yes?
problems are still the same the complications are the individuals more than anything.
Here's the Johnny Depp quote referencing your whole fall in love with two people deal:
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If you love two people at the same time, choose the second one, because if you really loved the first one you wouldn’t have fallen for the second.
just curious i was talking to a friend about it that loves rly big women..so what do u like? and why?
i like curvy girls.. cuz idk but ivehad that super skinny gf and she was pretty but meh it just wasnt enough..