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By Carbuncle.Joeywheeler 2011-12-27 22:45:17
aaand just finished revenge of the sith, tomorrow i get to dig out the star wars 4,5, and 6 VHSs =D
I recently did a marathon as well, was awesome :)
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By Asura.Chuuuuu 2011-12-27 22:46:15
tf2 anyone? :3
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By Ramuh.Haseyo 2011-12-27 22:53:31
I have a TF2 Ness.
Close enough right?
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By Asura.Chuuuuu 2011-12-27 22:59:18
you need to calm down with ur lame skins lol
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By Bismarck.Dracondria 2011-12-27 23:02:43
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By Ramuh.Urial 2011-12-27 23:05:02
Bismarck.Dracondria said: »Those comments.
hnghhhh
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By Cerberus.Irohuro 2011-12-27 23:10:48
Carbuncle.Joeywheeler said: »aaand just finished revenge of the sith, tomorrow i get to dig out the star wars 4,5, and 6 VHSs =D
I recently did a marathon as well, was awesome :)
my new computer and my copy of swtor come tomorrow =D
By slipispsycho 2011-12-27 23:13:48
Incoming rant...
Sometimes I hate being me.. My mother in law lives with us, she came to live with us because the people she was living with weren't treating her right at all.. She was basically starving to death.. However I'm socially awkward and even though she's been living with us for most of the year, and lived with us for quite a while before that, I still avoid talking to her.. I'm just that way, unless we have a common interest, like video games or weed, it can take years of you being around me to really actively talk to you..
Anyways her room is just on the other side of ours, she can hear everything we say in here [which is also kind of annoying, I feel like I have no privacy at all] and apparently she heard me and my wife arguing.. Me cooking our dinner got put off for hours because I had to cook my grandparents dinner, my grandfather has a growth in his throat that is likely cancer which prevents him from eating normal food, so we have to grind everything down to a baby food like consistency, and tonight I had to make him something with a better nutrient value than TV dinners or canned soup..
What I was going to cook was already going to take hours to do (and I just barely finished at it's 11PM now) and wife decided she wanted go to sleep, she's the designated go tell MIL dinners ready.. about 10 minutes before everything was going to be ready.. I told her I'm not going to go tell her mom, basically saying "hey stay up, you need to tell her dinner's ready soon" which fails, and there was a lot more said than that.. that's just simplified..
So I walk out the room to go finish everything up and get it ready to serve having already decided I'm going to just man up and tell her (I really can't describe why I don't want to.. It's not that I don't like her or don't care about her or anything, I just see that room as a personal barrier or something) and I get out to the kitchen and she's already at the fridge making cereal..
So now I feel like an *** and can't even enjoy my food because of it..
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By Carbuncle.Joeywheeler 2011-12-27 23:24:11
Carbuncle.Joeywheeler said: »aaand just finished revenge of the sith, tomorrow i get to dig out the star wars 4,5, and 6 VHSs =D
I recently did a marathon as well, was awesome :)
my new computer and my copy of swtor come tomorrow =D
Which server ya planning on going to?
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By Cerberus.Irohuro 2011-12-27 23:26:11
idk, i was thinking about giradda the hutt (est pve) because a guild im interested in is there
im most likely gonna do jedi sentinel as my class
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By Odin.Hitoseijuro 2011-12-27 23:27:48
Incoming rant... Sometimes I hate being me.. My mother in law lives with us, she came to live with us because the people she was living with weren't treating her right at all.. She was basically starving to death.. However I'm socially awkward and even though she's been living with us for most of the year, and lived with us for quite a while before that, I still avoid talking to her.. I'm just that way, unless we have a common interest, like video games or weed, it can take years of you being around me to really actively talk to you.. Anyways her room is just on the other side of ours, she can hear everything we say in here [which is also kind of annoying, I feel like I have no privacy at all] and apparently she heard me and my wife arguing.. Me cooking our dinner got put off for hours because I had to cook my grandparents dinner, my grandfather has a growth in his throat that is likely cancer which prevents him from eating normal food, so we have to grind everything down to a baby food like consistency, and tonight I had to make him something with a better nutrient value than TV dinners or canned soup.. What I was going to cook was already going to take hours to do (and I just barely finished at it's 11PM now) and wife decided she wanted go to sleep, she's the designated go tell MIL dinners ready.. about 10 minutes before everything was going to be ready.. I told her I'm not going to go tell her mom, basically saying "hey stay up, you need to tell her dinner's ready soon" which fails, and there was a lot more said than that.. that's just simplified.. So I walk out the room to go finish everything up and get it ready to serve having already decided I'm going to just man up and tell her (I really can't describe why I don't want to.. It's not that I don't like her or don't care about her or anything, I just see that room as a personal barrier or something) and I get out to the kitchen and she's already at the fridge making cereal.. So now I feel like an *** and can't even enjoy my food because of it.. You cant really blame yourself, it was just lack of communication. From all parties I suppose. How reliant is your MIL?? I mean is she disabled enough not to be able to get up from her room and ask if foods ready?
If you are going to let it eat you up, let it eat you up after dinner, I cant stress how often a thought has entered my head and ruined my food because I cant eat. I cant stress how much I hate a ruined meal. I cant stress how much I -never- get to eat my food hot....now Im ranting...
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By Cerberus.Valmur 2011-12-27 23:28:41
idk, i was thinking about giradda the hutt (est pve) because a guild im interested in is there
im most likely gonna do jedi sentinel as my class
Yea I would avoid pvp atm, laggy as hell D:
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By Cerberus.Irohuro 2011-12-27 23:29:43
yea im not a huge pvper, mainly warzones and stuff are what i like
By Artemicion 2011-12-27 23:30:25
Slip:
Not to sound like a total jerk, but in my books, the cook has total control. If you're making it, you determine what and when anyone is eating. If it's too late or they don't like it, tough ***. They can make something else themselves or food is simply a credit card and a phone call away too.
Cooking for more than one person tends to be too much work to warrant touchy-feely considerations for others; so I can't put any fault on your part.
Especially since you're going out of your way to make the damned thing digestible for another family member.
By volkom 2011-12-27 23:31:10
send her to the nursing home!
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By Cerberus.Irohuro 2011-12-27 23:34:44
i think my dad gave me a sore throat >=(
the one time he comes over and he gives me a hug and is then like "oh i think im getting sick..."
and i havent had health insurance since he decided to drop me off his the very second he found out i didnt have school for a semester
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By Cerberus.Irohuro 2011-12-27 23:35:27
Bismarck.Josiahkf said: »Incoming rant...
Sometimes I hate being me.. My mother in law lives with us, she came to live with us because the people she was living with weren't treating her right at all.. She was basically starving to death.. However I'm socially awkward and even though she's been living with us for most of the year, and lived with us for quite a while before that, I still avoid talking to her.. I'm just that way, unless we have a common interest, like video games or weed, it can take years of you being around me to really actively talk to you..
Anyways her room is just on the other side of ours, she can hear everything we say in here [which is also kind of annoying, I feel like I have no privacy at all] and apparently she heard me and my wife arguing.. Me cooking our dinner got put off for hours because I had to cook my grandparents dinner, my grandfather has a growth in his throat that is likely cancer which prevents him from eating normal food, so we have to grind everything down to a baby food like consistency, and tonight I had to make him something with a better nutrient value than TV dinners or canned soup..
What I was going to cook was already going to take hours to do (and I just barely finished at it's 11PM now) and wife decided she wanted go to sleep, she's the designated go tell MIL dinners ready.. about 10 minutes before everything was going to be ready.. I told her I'm not going to go tell her mom, basically saying "hey stay up, you need to tell her dinner's ready soon" which fails, and there was a lot more said than that.. that's just simplified..
So I walk out the room to go finish everything up and get it ready to serve having already decided I'm going to just man up and tell her (I really can't describe why I don't want to.. It's not that I don't like her or don't care about her or anything, I just see that room as a personal barrier or something) and I get out to the kitchen and she's already at the fridge making cereal..
So now I feel like an *** and can't even enjoy my food because of it.. I would try mentally taking a deep breath around her and trying to think more/be aware more if you can handle it. what does she want to talk about when you're stuck talking to her. what's on her mind etc
It's a great place for the socially awkward to begin and get as comfortable as the dialogue will make the person you're talking to. Affirming constantly using purely sincere understanding (even if you don't agree, just honest comprehension can provide that with the right mindset) smooths it out a lot and remembering what matters: You're family and seven really loves her. it's much easier to create a rapport than it seems, even with ignorant/bigoted people as an example
But I'm sorry tonight ended up so shitty for ya, hopefully there is a cheap way to haste grandfather's food preparation in the future or something similar to relieve things
talk about boobs, that always seems to be a common interest with people
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By Bismarck.Dracondria 2011-12-27 23:37:48
i think my dad gave me a sore throat >=(
the one time he comes over and he gives me a hug and is then like "oh i think im getting sick..."
and i havent had health insurance since he decided to drop me off his the very second he found out i didnt have school for a semester
It's just a sore throat >.>
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By Odin.Hitoseijuro 2011-12-27 23:38:44
Bismarck.Josiahkf said: »Incoming rant... Sometimes I hate being me.. My mother in law lives with us, she came to live with us because the people she was living with weren't treating her right at all.. She was basically starving to death.. However I'm socially awkward and even though she's been living with us for most of the year, and lived with us for quite a while before that, I still avoid talking to her.. I'm just that way, unless we have a common interest, like video games or weed, it can take years of you being around me to really actively talk to you.. Anyways her room is just on the other side of ours, she can hear everything we say in here [which is also kind of annoying, I feel like I have no privacy at all] and apparently she heard me and my wife arguing.. Me cooking our dinner got put off for hours because I had to cook my grandparents dinner, my grandfather has a growth in his throat that is likely cancer which prevents him from eating normal food, so we have to grind everything down to a baby food like consistency, and tonight I had to make him something with a better nutrient value than TV dinners or canned soup.. What I was going to cook was already going to take hours to do (and I just barely finished at it's 11PM now) and wife decided she wanted go to sleep, she's the designated go tell MIL dinners ready.. about 10 minutes before everything was going to be ready.. I told her I'm not going to go tell her mom, basically saying "hey stay up, you need to tell her dinner's ready soon" which fails, and there was a lot more said than that.. that's just simplified.. So I walk out the room to go finish everything up and get it ready to serve having already decided I'm going to just man up and tell her (I really can't describe why I don't want to.. It's not that I don't like her or don't care about her or anything, I just see that room as a personal barrier or something) and I get out to the kitchen and she's already at the fridge making cereal.. So now I feel like an *** and can't even enjoy my food because of it.. I would try mentally taking a deep breath around her and trying to think more/be aware more if you can handle it. what does she want to talk about when you're stuck talking to her. what's on her mind etc It's a great place for the socially awkward to begin and get as comfortable as the dialogue will make the person you're talking to. Affirming constantly using purely sincere understanding (even if you don't agree, just honest comprehension can provide that with the right mindset) smooths it out a lot and remembering what matters: You're family and seven really loves her. it's much easier to create a rapport than it seems, even with ignorant/bigoted people as an example But I'm sorry tonight ended up so shitty for ya, hopefully there is a cheap way to haste grandfather's food preparation in the future or something similar to relieve things talk about boobs, that always seems to be a common interest with people I dont think "So....how 'bout them boobs your daughter has huh..." is going to break the ice....
By slipispsycho 2011-12-27 23:41:09
@Hito she's not that disabled but she's no spring chicken either.. She fell in the hallway the other day and couldn't get up, if I hadn't came along and helped her up she probably woulda been there quite awhile.. Me and her have this don't come into each other's bedroom relationship.. She only comes in here when the wife is home and drags her in here, and I always put up the food after I get my plate (under normal circumstances her and my wife would have gotten theirs before I even went to get mine) so it's not like it'd just be sitting on the stove for her to go and check.
@Art the only part I feel bad about is her overhearing me and wife talking/arguing [would be hard to call it an argument but in a way it was] I don't really feel bad about it being so late, that was out of my control, plus I've been on my feet all day cooking and washing dishes, it's a miracle I didn't just say "*** this I'll cook our food tomorrow" and she's not a picky eater or anything, but she'd never know dinner is ready without someone going to tell her, which as I said is my wife's job because I just feel uncomfortable doing it. But dinner came way later tonight than usual and my wife decided to go to sleep before it was done.
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By Cerberus.Irohuro 2011-12-27 23:41:21
Bismarck.Dracondria said: »i think my dad gave me a sore throat >=(
the one time he comes over and he gives me a hug and is then like "oh i think im getting sick..."
and i havent had health insurance since he decided to drop me off his the very second he found out i didnt have school for a semester
It's just a sore throat >.>
it could be a sign of something greater though =/
By Artemicion 2011-12-27 23:44:31
Even if I was living alone, I'd probably do a big cattle call shout saying: DINNER'S READY!!!
Hell, I do that for my cats when I feed them too xD
Would be awkward if nobody came though.
By slipispsycho 2011-12-27 23:44:34
There is no talking between us <_< we don't talk, well I mean we don't just go out of way to avoid it, if it's something important or we need to tell the other something like "wife wants you to come out to the car" or "wife wants to know if you need anything from the store on the way home" then we'll talk, but we don't have discussions.. Me and her literally have no common interests, and I *** suck at making small talk.. So there's really nothing to talk about unless it's necessary conversation.
By slipispsycho 2011-12-27 23:45:46
Even if I was living alone, I'd probably do a big cattle call shout saying: DINNER'S READY!!!
Hell, I do that for my cats when I feed them too xD
Would be awkward if nobody came though. It's 11 PM and we have to struggle to get our 7 year old to go to sleep as is.. If I shouted anything, this late, wife would wake up and castrate me.
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By Cerberus.Irohuro 2011-12-27 23:45:50
There is no talking between us <_< we don't talk, well I mean we don't just go out of way to avoid it, if it's something important or we need to tell the other something like "wife wants you to come out to the car" or "wife wants to know if you need anything from the store on the way home" then we'll talk, but we don't have discussions.. Me and her literally have no common interests, and I *** suck at making small talk.. So there's really nothing to talk about unless it's necessary conversation.
what, didnt like my suggestion? =(
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By Bismarck.Dracondria 2011-12-27 23:45:58
You don't sit and have dinner together? :o
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By Bismarck.Magnuss 2011-12-27 23:46:00
Even if I was living alone, I'd probably do a big cattle call shout saying: DINNER'S READY!!!
Hell, I do that for my cats when I feed them too xD
Would be awkward if nobody came though.
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By Cerberus.Irohuro 2011-12-27 23:46:57
Bismarck.Dracondria said: »You don't sit and have dinner together? :o
lol, this is america, only people on tv do that
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By Odin.Liela 2011-12-27 23:47:31
Incoming rant...
Sometimes I hate being me.. My mother in law lives with us, she came to live with us because the people she was living with weren't treating her right at all.. She was basically starving to death.. However I'm socially awkward and even though she's been living with us for most of the year, and lived with us for quite a while before that, I still avoid talking to her.. I'm just that way, unless we have a common interest, like video games or weed, it can take years of you being around me to really actively talk to you..
Anyways her room is just on the other side of ours, she can hear everything we say in here [which is also kind of annoying, I feel like I have no privacy at all] and apparently she heard me and my wife arguing.. Me cooking our dinner got put off for hours because I had to cook my grandparents dinner, my grandfather has a growth in his throat that is likely cancer which prevents him from eating normal food, so we have to grind everything down to a baby food like consistency, and tonight I had to make him something with a better nutrient value than TV dinners or canned soup..
What I was going to cook was already going to take hours to do (and I just barely finished at it's 11PM now) and wife decided she wanted go to sleep, she's the designated go tell MIL dinners ready.. about 10 minutes before everything was going to be ready.. I told her I'm not going to go tell her mom, basically saying "hey stay up, you need to tell her dinner's ready soon" which fails, and there was a lot more said than that.. that's just simplified..
So I walk out the room to go finish everything up and get it ready to serve having already decided I'm going to just man up and tell her (I really can't describe why I don't want to.. It's not that I don't like her or don't care about her or anything, I just see that room as a personal barrier or something) and I get out to the kitchen and she's already at the fridge making cereal..
So now I feel like an *** and can't even enjoy my food because of it..
Living with other people is hard. My brother in law lived with us for a year, and even though we get along fine, we fought the entire year he lived there. Over everything. Living with someone else is a difficult situation all-round, and it seems even more so with in-laws. And not having any privacy with your wife is not going to help anything at all. Being dead silent during other bedroom fun-times would be less than satisfying, I should think, and without that satisfaction every once in awhile you get stressed out.
Now couple that with the fact that you also had to not only cook for your dad but also grind up his food makes it that much more difficult, the apparent lack of communication and your bashfulness in speaking to your MIL didn't help either.
Also, Annika seems pretty laid-back and happy. Did she have a rough day at work that made her more likely to argue? Look into that and see if she's feeling blue for some other reason and subconsciously taking it out on you. Women do that, and it's usually accidental. :-( My husband points out to me all the time that I'm mad over something and jumping on him for it when he didn't do anything to deserve it. It happens.
Now, about the cooking. Art is right that it's generally under the chef's control. I don't usually have problems with a dinner being very late, but in the circumstance that someone doesn't like it-- tough. Last time I babysat, the little girl didn't like the dinner I cooked her. I told her she could come back and try it again later when she was more hungry, or she was welcome to make herself a sandwich. (She was quite old enough to make a sandwich or omelette or anything simple on her own.) It highly annoys me when a cook changes their plan based on a picky eater. My aunt does it all the time to my cousin's kid. She'll spend hours making a perfect lasagna, and the kid insists on something else. She'll toss the lasagna and make something else. That kid is going to grow up to be the brattiest, pickiest, most annoying eater in the world.
Now, another thing to remember is that when people get hungry before a meal, there's usually a snack or something they can munch on. Cereal, toast, yogurt-- it makes sense that if any of them were just plain starving plumb to death and they thought their belly buttons were bouncing like mad off their backbones-- they would have grabbed a snack. The exception would be if your MIL was incapable of doing such, and in that case, would she have felt comfortable asking for a snack?
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This is a thread that I found on another website I post at. It can be really really interesting. I thought it deserved a place here.
Post your random thoughts for the day here, or anything else that intrigues you.
For starters, is it possible to give constructive critism to someone who doesn't have a neck? I totally just walked by a girl who didn't. Someone isn't getting a necklace for Valentines day!
And who decided black and white can't be colors? I want to say a racist. I really do.
Inb4thisthreadgetsreallywtf
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