What Grinds Your Gears?

*** everything.

Political Correctness, and anyone, or thing that would censor comedy.


That and microwaved food

the friend zone

Being single

BRAH!*

As much as I love traditional RPGs, one thing that has always bugged me was random battles. I don't even mind the whole instanced battle scenario going outside of the field movement, but at least let me see what I'm running into before it happens D:

Picture related... sort of.

People who say "Happy Christmas"

Final Fantasy XI

Fake tan

People who whine about being in the "friend zone"... oh my someone doesn't want to go out with you? boo *** hoo... just because you like someone doesn't mean that they have to fall madly in love with you...

This argument is as flawed as the whole "Women aren't vending machines that you put kindness coins into until sex comes out".

The point is, when one is emotionally invested in a single person, being "friend zoned" is often taken or interpreted as an insulting compromise. In a perfect world, we'd take what we can get, and relish the opportunity of friendship, but personal interpretation and hormones disagree sadly.

Quite simply, cushioned rejection is often times insult to injury.

I just don't get it... It almost seems like if person a likes person b then person a just expects person b to like them back... and if they don't it's almost like they've wronged them or something... either be a *** friend because you actually do care about the person or move the *** on because you were only there for one reason anyways...

Not that simple lol.
Though I envy your black and white world of relationships.

Let me put it this way: The friend zone is kind of like an emotional purgatory. Being mentally invested in someone without their knowledge or influence is taxing enough as it is, but to have them put you in a stasis of uncertainty and moderation can be even more emotionally exhausting than before.

you ever think that someone actually just wants to be someones friend? That they actually care about the person but just don't share those feelings? I mean genuinely...

If it's too hard or your not interested in friendship then move on... rejection sucks sure... but if anyone thinks they're going to bat 1000 then they're sorely mistaken...

This whole friendzone stuff is just ridiculous... and you can't fault someone or demonize em just cuz they don't want to be with you...

When you're in love "moving on" is not such an easy task. Sometimes it may even take years.

It is that simple... unless this person is stringing you around and saying no bet then hinting about wanting you then no... if you ask someone out and they say no... that's it... you either keep fighting because you think you have a shot... or you take the hit and move on... There is no purgatory if someone says no... even if they say they just want to be your friend... it's a no...

many can't handle friendships after confessing their feelings to meet with rejection so you find some way to cope then move the *** on...

The thing is, more often than not, the friend zone stigma is a compromise for one's decision in not wanting to be with said person. It's the way of having their cake and eating it too. They don't want to lose said person, but they also don't want to take things any further, so they're put in the middle. To the one that has invested their emotions, it's a perpetual time out. I'd be more logical to simply face the music and react honestly to one's proposals of romance than playing it safe and leaving the other person in limbo so to speak.

That's true... but demonizing someone because they don't share the same feelings or trying to force those feelings on that person isn't fair to them either... just because one person doesn't want to be in a relationship with someone else doesn't mean they've done something wrong...

I think the whole friendzone thing comes from the fact that the person rejecting you doesn't completely dislike you, cause if that person just doesn't want anything to do with you, it's somewhat easier to deal with, but the person actually likes you but not that way, which leads to a kind of stressful state of mind for the rejected who thinks "damn I'm so close yet so far".

You've obviously never been friend-zoned for an extended period of time.

Not sure why the friend zone is often stipulated or stigmatized with demonizing the other person, but you're right; demonizing someone for their personal decision is petty and childish, but it has more to do with the manner in which such a thing is carried out. There's no need for a hazy facade of friendship or hope for a clear cut answer. Adults can carry out their relationships mutually as they see fit without the need for coating it with *** so to speak.

So what you're saying is that if I have a friend... a good friend... and my friend one day confesses feelings for me... and as hard as it is to break that friends heart... as much as it crushes me to do it... I tell that friend I don't share the same feelings... because lets just cut to it... I don't... It's wrong of me to want to stay friends with that person? Let's face it.. it's never the same but it is in no way wrong to want to keep the person as a close friend...

If that person can't handle it then you cut ties and do what you need to do to get by... you don't whine about it and harbor resentment or talk about how they want the best of everything and leave you hanging... if you don't want to be in "limbo" which I don't even agree with, then take yourself out and move on... it's hard sure... but you only have yourself to blame if you stick around... it's your choice to make... can't force someone to love you and it's wrong to burden someone else with your feelings..

I'm sorry but that's life... at that point you either fight for it because you think you still have a shot, you stay friends and learn to bottle up your feelings and eventually leave them behind, or you move on... no matter how close you are or not... if someone says no that's just the way it is at that time...

my biggest problem is people who blame someone for saying no... or trying to play it off like art did as "having your cake and eating it too" just for wanting to keep things the way they were...

Ultimately it is our own decision to stay or go though... and by no means am I saying it is an easy decision... but it's on us...

You're right, it ultimately comes down to the decision of the one rejected, but you could certainly understand the weight of being positioned and labeled in a spot that heavily conflicts with your desires, or can be interpreted as (circumstantially) damage control, thus being relatively insulting to your initial proposal.

Sure you can't really blame the person rejecting(unless they act like a ***/selfish, etc), but on the same account you can't blame the rejected either for feeling sad about it. Unrequited feelings are horrible and whining about love is in our nature isn't it!

lol... That's because I would never stick around with the notion in my head that things will change... that maybe one day they will stop dating jerks and see the white knight before them... or maybe they'll see that i'm better for her than her current s/o and will break up with them for me... or whatever other reason we give to ourselves to convince our brains that it will happen....

People in the "friend zone" punish themselves...

Just think how much music has come from unrequited love!

Laaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayla!

Poor Link, just can't catch a break, can he?